Expressions of sympathy can be tricky, sometimes. Loss and death make all of us feel vulnerable amidst our empathy. A wave of different emotions can sweep over us based on our own experiences and beliefs. Our desire is to reach out and comfort people and express our sympathy. Sometimes we know the deceased but we do not know those who are mourning them very well. Sometimes we know those who mourn more than those who are mourned. Relationships are intimate which means many things are private. Beliefs and values may not be apparent. While we may believe the deceased is in a better place, the mourner may not share that belief. Maybe the mourner’s belief system is in turmoil as a result of their recent loss. A simple sincere line expressing your sympathy regarding their loss is always appropriate. If you knew the deceased and are comfortable sharing a memory with those that mourn, then do. Everyone likes to be remembered. Even if, for some reason, time has passed and you missed sending a note or card at the time of loss, it is never to late to offer sympathy and comfort. At the time of loss many people are there to offer their sympathy while the loss is fresh and new, but for the mourner, the loss continues. Birthdays, holidays, special occasions, etcetera bring the loss to the forefront again. It can be very comforting to know that someone has not forgotten that you are still missing your loved one.
This pretty sympathy card was created by Eldonna Epp and was received in a convention swap.